Throughout the course of our careers we see a lot of friends and colleagues leave work to begin their maternity leave.
We see them bloom and glow as they progress in their pregnancy. We share in their thoughts, hopes and aspirations for their baby. We chip into the collection when they leave, and share in their joy as we shower them with baby gifts. Then they go away for a while… And come back transformed. Their outlook has changed, they get far less stressed about work than they used to and they feel generally happier and more fulfilled. They may take a little while for their workplace training to kick back in but when they’ve buffed off the rust, they’re better than ever with renewed vigour and joie de vivre. They make it look easy. But when the time comes for us to have our own kids, we realise the extent of the emotional journey they’ve gone through.
Childbirth is the source of tremendous change, both physical and psychological, for women. Looking into the eyes of your child for the first time triggers a sudden and irrevocable change in the minds of new mothers. Protecting this tiny person, whoever they turn out to be, becomes their first and only priority and every other worry that used to consume them simply melts away.
Maternity leave is a wonderful time for mothers and their babies to bond, but when it starts to come to an end all those anxieties when it comes to the workplace come rushing back. We worry about how we’re going to adapt to juggling the pressures of work and family, we worry that the time away from the workplace has caused us to forget how to do our jobs and we worry about how our baby will be able to get along without us all day.
These anxieties can conspire to instill in us a mounting sense of dread as we get closer and closer to our first day back at work. While these anxieties are neither unusual nor unreasonable there are some helpful ways in which you can beat these back to work blues.
It’s not just for boy scouts, it’s good advice for everyone. As tempting as it may be to bury your head in the sand in your absence, the best way to nip anxiety in the bud is to grab the bull by the horns and start planning your return as early as possible. Try to stagger your return as a return to full time hours can be jarring and draining for you and your baby. It’s important to keep an open line of communication with your employer so that together you can arrange a return schedule that benefits you both.
Planning will help you to assert a sense of control over this significant change in your life, and acclimatise your mind to the change. Arrange yourself a timetable for your new schedule in which you’ll nail down the times you’ll leave the house, get baby to the nursery or childcare provider and back to work, Make sure that these times are realistic and account for traffic. It’s easy for forget how nightmarish the rush hour can be.
Know your rights
If there’s one area in which new parents specialise it’s catastrophizing. We can all too easily find ourselves wrapped up in worst case scenarios without any evidence whatsoever that they’ll come to pass. We worry that our employers will treat us differently, that at best we’ll be handled with kid gloves and at worst we’ll be ostracized by our employers and colleagues. Here’s where knowing your employment rights under ACAS can be reassuring and helpful. When you know what you’re entitled to and how to get it, you’ll be surprised at how easily those return to work nightmares can fade away.
Don’t punish yourself for your emotions
Throughout pregnancy, childbirth, nursing and motherhood a new mother’s hormones strap her into an emotional rollercoaster. Motherhood is a wonderful experience, but it can really put us through the wringer emotionally. As such, when the paradigm shift of returning to work occurs it can be virtually impossible to preempt your emotional state in the run up to returning to work. You may feel fear that you’ll fail both at work or parenting, you may feel guilt at leaving your child unattended for 8-10 hours a day. You may even start to feel a little spark of excitement that you’ll be able to redefine yourself beyond the role of motherhood, which may result in feelings of guilt. More than likely, you’ll find yourself in an emotional spin cycle resulting in rotations of the above. Whatever you find yourself feeling, it’s important not to punish yourself. It’s not sinful to look forward to taking a step back from motherhood or to relish the prospect of a change of environment. If anything you should commend yourself for managing the fine line that all working mothers must walk with such aplomb.
Be realistic with yourself
Nobody expects your return to work to be as though you never left. Not your partner, not your boss, not your colleagues… But you probably do. You may feel the need to put pressure on yourself to be able to master your workplace obligations as easily as you did before you left. Your mind and body have been through a lot of significant changes, and employers worth their salt will know this. Having high expectations of yourself is one thing, but having unrealistic expectations of yourself is quite another and can be hugely counterproductive.
Try to set yourself two or three meaningful but realistic goals a day in your new job and incorporate this into your planning.
Be honest with your employer and colleagues
While some people may encourage you to “fake it till you make it”, the reality is that this will accomplish little short of you smiling while you burn out. Your employer will already be cognisant of the trials you may be undergoing as you juggle your work and parenting commitments (chances are they’ve had to do it themselves), and it’s important to be honest about what you’re going through logistically and emotionally. Resist the urge to smile through your struggles and take on more work than you can handle. You’ll benefit nobody from driving yourself towards a breakdown.
Taking the above steps will help the back to work blues fade away and make your return to work as manageable and (dare we say it?) enjoyable as possible.
Being a successful work-from-home entrepreneur or freelancer, while also being a stay at home parent, is far from easy. Timing can be a major issue, and there’s no way of knowing with certainty when your child will need your attention.
Nonetheless, being a stay at home parent lends itself perfectly to being a home-based entrepreneur for many different reasons. It is by far the most flexible working arrangement you could enjoy, and allows you to be there for your child almost constantly during the day, in case any emergency might arise.
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Being in the healthcare sector is one of the most rewarding jobs in the world. There’s so much to learn, so many people’s lives to save, and so many highs and lows.
You’ll constantly be faced with challenges, and your emotions will be tested daily. But to see the happiness on people’s faces when you’re nursing them back to health, or improving their way of life is worth all the hardship. This post is going to explore a few of the reasons why a position in the health sector is perfect.
Whether you’re a nurse or health care assistant, the challenge is always going to be huge. You’ll be under a lot of pressure due to the strains on the health sector at the minute, but the challenge is what should drive you through the day. You’ll be faced with new issues regularly, and you’ll be pulled from pillar to post trying to spread your time between patients and your task. But that’s what makes the day go so quickly. You’ll be challenged emotionally constantly, but it’ll make you grow so much stronger as a person. The unfortunate side to being in health care you will have to encounter deaths and bereavements from families. Nothing you ever do in life will be more mentally challenging especially if you work with children and have children yourself, but nothing will make you more empathetic than experiencing this.
The knowledge you’ll have as either a health care assistant or nurse will be huge. For a health care assistant, you’ll have completed QCF Diplomas in Health and Social Care or similar qualifications. If you’re heading down the route of nursing, you’ll have spent three years at university studying and shadowing nurses. Both are gruelling experiences, but by the end of it you’ll be experts in your field. Having such a wealth of knowledge when it comes to treating injuries or illnesses can be applied to the outside world. If you have children who are prone to scrapes and bruises, knowing how to properly treat them, and whether they should go to hospital is a skill you’ll never regret having.
The Progression & Security
If there’s one thing that the UK is crying out for, it’s nurses and carers. They’re that short of staff that people from other countries are being flown in to try and boost the numbers. So if you enter the healthcare sector, don’t ever be worried about being chucked out, or even short of shifts. There’s also so much room for progression. In caring, you can go on to become a senior carer. In nursing, you can become a sister, or even a research nurse. If you make it this far, your pay bracket will be nice and healthy, and you can be involved in the development of new drugs that could save people’s lives. You’ll be that in demand, you’ll probably find yourself working more hours than you need to, but if you love your job this shouldn’t be too much of an issue and the extra pay will be good!
So, you’re looking for a new job? Did you know that 77% of employers use social media to recruit?
Yep, a study by the Society for Human Resource Management has the figure at over three quarters, but some people predict it to be higher. After reading this, it might seem as if finding a modern job requires new tactics. However, it is possible to find employment without the help of LinkedIn et al. Here’s what you need to know if you have a social media deficiency.
Sign Up To An Agency
Pure Staff who can help. In simple terms, an agency introduces you to new opportunities, while securing an interview. They also tweak CVs and provide interview coaching to ensure you present the best possible version of yourself. With access to their resources, the majority of job hunters secure a new role within less than a month.
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Are you tired of the 9 to 5 and want to launch your own business? Maybe you simply want to top up your income at the end of each month.
Whether you are looking for money-making ideas to start your own business or as a hobby, we are offering the five side hustles that can substantially boost your bank balance.
- Write and Publish eBooks
Do you have any skills and experience you would like to pass onto others? Do you have a flair for words? Utilize your knowledge by writing and selling eBooks online, which you can sell on Amazon or via your website. You will determine the word count and pricing, and will be responsible for creating a book cover and developing engaging marketing campaigns. If you work hard to create an insightful, well-written eBook, you could build up a large audience, which could help you make a substantial amount of money.
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There’s that old saying that most people tend to stick to: don’t ever work with animals or kids.
But, as a mum, you’re probably thinking that working with kids can’t be that bad. After all, you’ve already got plenty of experience with dealing with them! However, you might be surprised to find that having kids and working with them are two completely different scenarios.
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The growing frequency of mumpreneurs up and down the country has been nothing short of staggering in recent years. Thousands of women are now juggling parenthood with their careers by using this approach.
Moreover, it’s something you’ve probably considered at one stage or another too. Before jumping in at the deep end, however, you need reassurances that this is the right solution.
Being a mumpreneur isn’t easy, and requires a lot of hard graft. Nonetheless, there are many rewards to be gained, which is why so many women have followed this pathway. Is it time for you to do the same? Find out here.
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According to a study presented by Forbes, approximately 52.3% of Americans are unhappy with work, which explains the reason why professionals are constantly looking for a change in pace.
Every year, professionals who are tired of their 9 – 6 office hours take a leap of faith and decide that they’re going to earn a living by trading foreign currencies online
Forex trading is an attractive career path for those who are looking for a better life. One glance at the life of a successful trader on Instagram and it’s easy to see why Forex attracts people from all professions. In an article published by The Balance, it was discussed that a veteran trader with a £3,819 ($5,000) capital could earn a potential profit of £3,361 ($4,400) in a month. A veteran trader can make much more with a £15,000 ($20,000) capital.
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What’s the one thing all successful business owners have in common? Exceptional organisation skills.
If this is one area that is letting your company down, you must take the steps to organise your workload, resources and staff to create a more productive enterprise. Read how to improve your business’s organisation.
A Proactive Approach
Are you taking each day one step at a time? If so, you might be reacting to a situation rather than preparing for it. As a result, resolving issues can take longer and can slow down your business. Embrace a proactive approach, so you can identify what you will need to do before you need to it. Know exactly what you will have to do tomorrow, and aim to identify any potential issues early on so you can develop an appropriate response.
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One way to enjoy working is to get involved and participate. No job is easy. It’s up to you to create an environment that’s suitable for you and where you can thrive. You have to put in the effort and be willing to make a difference each day.
One way to get noticed at your job is to step out of your comfort zone and put yourself out there. Don’t be afraid to take risks when you’re trying to get ahead. Be strategic about what you say and do around the office. See how to get the right attention at work.
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